Stop Complaining and Just Do It!
This saying has been used over time by parents including mine, myself as a parent, coaches, teachers, and bosses. The scripture I would quote to my children on a routine bases can be found in the New Testament book of Philippians 2:14-15 (NLT) that states “14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” Complaining is one thing I can do well. I sometimes find myself making excuses and complaining about all sorts of issues. It creeps up in me and I go back to the verse I quoted my children to check myself.
One of the main complaints I hear is from friends who complain about the complaining on Facebook. I have hidden people from my profile so I would not have to see their constant negative post. Everywhere I find myself from online, in my community, television, online media and yes even family seems to be baptized with a complaining culture. It creeps back into my spirit. So, my goal is to stop complaining and just do it.
How Was My Mind and Spirit Changed?
My friend Lance gave me a great reason to reexamine my mind and spirit. Let me introduce you to this amazing man. He lives daily with the reality of being in a wheelchair. He was born with spina bifida. Spina bifida is a condition that is from birth which the Mayo clinic states, “occurs when the spine and spinal cord don’t form properly.” Lance at a young age used crutches to get around as well as a wheelchair. He was bullied, harassed and told all his life by others he could not be “normal” in society. Lance proves them all wrong to this day. The picture is Lance in his first marathon. He wanted to be in the race but did not own a racing chair. He raced in his normal, daily chair. Race officials told him it had never been done. He finished the race. He did it! Lance did not complain about the racing officials or his lack of proper equipment, he just did it. It is what he does to this day.
Changing the Way I Think
I want to be like Lance. Stop looking for the reasons I can’t do something or complain about why it is hard. I want to just do it with a determination and drive that proves I can overcome and succeed. Lance is a bright light of inspiration in a very dark world. Coaching has helped me view my life in a more intentional way. Questions I ask myself might be:
- Why am I complaining about this issue?
- Does complaining change anything about it?
- Do I have a right to complain?
- What if I change the way I looked at what I was complaining about?
When I ask myself these questions, I focus beyond the circumstances, and look at the possible success that I can take advantage of. Instead of living among the everyday darkness of complaining, whining, and arguing; I choose to think about being an over comer, a bright light of inspiration and motivation. I choose to just do it and go against the grain. Coaching brings clarity and focus to the issues we might be complaining about and helps plan to overcome and succeed. Complaining is traded in for success. Nike chose the slogan for a reason, Just do it!
Written by Mary Rector
Master Coach, Life Coach