Margin Matters: 5 Ways to Create Space in Your Life

Margin Matters: 5 Ways to Create Space in Your Life

Stephen Covey writes, “The key is not spending time but investing it.”

In my experience, some of the most popular phrases I here are: “I’m too busy!” and “I wish I had time for that…” “I wish I had the time.” We all come from different places, but the most common thing we all have is time. It is extremely limited, moves to fast, and we will never get it back. I am no different! I am a husband, father of two, I work two jobs, volunteer in my church, visit my extended family, and somehow am finishing my Master’s Degree. People ask me how can I balance my work load and personal life. I am not perfect, but I have found some ways to create margin in my life. I found 5 ways to create space in my life to be effective:

  1. Prioritize: We give our time, talent, and treasure towards what/whom we desire. Many of us are busy, and we are busy just to be busy! Prioritizing by importance, deadline, and value can create margin in your life by simply eliminating distraction. We can prioritize things in every area of life.

 

  1. Scheduling: This is probably preaching to the choir to my Type A people, but there is truth to scheduling your time. We create space by being intentional and honoring our commitments. Do not think scheduling is limited to meetings, events, or trips. Schedule quiet time, critical thinking time, and time to learn. Leaders are learners, and scheduling time to learn and think critically can greatly impact your work. Scheduling time to rest might sound odd, but it promotes the discipline of scheduling and intentional time to rest.

 

  1. Learn to Say No, so You Can Say Yes: I don’t know about you, but I often have a hard time saying no. I have been taught that when we agree to something, we are also saying no to other things. For example, If I say yes to a good business opportunity I am saying no to family or a greater business opportunity. In terms of margin, it is good to learn to say no when you can so you have the margin or freedom to yes to greater things. It is not always easy to make this decision, but overtime you have more and more opportunities to say no.

 

  1. Focus on What Matters: We all have things we have to do, and after we learn how to prioritize, we can focus on the work that matters and get it done. Whether this is work, relationships, your faith, or relaxation, we must focus on what matters most in life. There are times in my life where I turn down career opportunities to spend more time with family. Many of my friends in the military made sacrifices to serve their country. No matter what type of job you have, we all have the ability to creatively find ways to focus our time, energy, and attention on what or who matters most.

 

  1. Empower Others: Delegate, delegate, delegate. You will be surprised how equipping and empowering others will help create margin in your life. The more you can train, lead, and delegate to others can create space in your schedule to focus on what matters. There are some duties you might not want to delegate, but learn how to go farther and faster together.

 

Margin matters. We need rest, time for creative and effective work, and the freedom to say no so we can say yes. We never get time back. Our investment of our time is probably the most valuable thing we have. Don’t waste it!

 

Written by Jonathan Rector

Executive Leadership & Life Coach

 

Stop Complaining and Just Do It!

Stop Complaining and Just Do It!

This saying has been used over time by parents including mine, myself as a parent, coaches, teachers, and bosses. The scripture I would quote to my children on a routine bases can be found in the New Testament book of Philippians 2:14-15 (NLT) that states “14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” Complaining is one thing I can do well. I sometimes find myself making excuses and complaining about all sorts of issues. It creeps up in me and I go back to the verse I quoted my children to check myself.

 One of the main complaints I hear is from friends who complain about the complaining on Facebook. I have hidden people from my profile so I would not have to see their constant negative post. Everywhere I find myself from online, in my community, television, online media and yes even family seems to be baptized with a complaining culture. It creeps back into my spirit. So, my goal is to stop complaining and just do it. 

How Was My Mind and Spirit Changed?

 

 

My friend Lance gave me a great reason to reexamine my mind and spirit. Let me introduce you to this amazing man. He lives daily with the reality of being in a wheelchair. He was born with spina bifida. Spina bifida is a condition that is from birth which the Mayo clinic states, “occurs when the spine and spinal cord don’t form properly.” Lance at a young age used crutches to get around as well as a wheelchair. He was bullied, harassed and told all his life by others he could not be “normal” in society. Lance proves them all wrong to this day. The picture is Lance in his first marathon. He wanted to be in the race but did not own a racing chair. He raced in his normal, daily chair. Race officials told him it had never been done. He finished the race. He did it! Lance did not complain about the racing officials or his lack of proper equipment, he just did it. It is what he does to this day.

Changing the Way I Think

I want to be like Lance. Stop looking for the reasons I can’t do something or complain about why it is hard. I want to just do it with a determination and drive that proves I can overcome and succeed. Lance is a bright light of inspiration in a very dark world. Coaching has helped me view my life in a more intentional way. Questions I ask myself might be:

  • Why am I complaining about this issue?
  • Does complaining change anything about it?
  • Do I have a right to complain?
  • What if I change the way I looked at what I was complaining about?

When I ask myself these questions, I focus beyond the circumstances, and look at the possible success that I can take advantage of. Instead of living among the everyday darkness of complaining, whining, and arguing; I choose to think about being an over comer, a bright light of inspiration and motivation. I choose to just do it and go against the grain. Coaching brings clarity and focus to the issues we might be complaining about and helps plan to overcome and succeed. Complaining is traded in for success. Nike chose the slogan for a reason, Just do it!

 

Written by Mary Rector

Master Coach, Life Coach

Overcoming Fear: Discovering Your New Normal

Overcoming Fear: Discovering Your New Normal

J. Oswald Sanders in his book Spiritual Leadership writes,The person who sees the difficulties so clearly that he does not discern the possibilities cannot inspire a vision in others.

Do you see difficulties as possibilities? Most of the time I don’t! Fear is a powerful feeling, so I think it’s important to ask, “Why am I afraid?” Is it the fear of failure? Shame? Fear of not having control? Great leaders discover ways to push past fear, discover new possibilities, and inspire a vision in others!

I would lie if I told you I have found the secret to overcoming fear. I still get afraid. Taking risks is a major part of life and business, but we often fail taking the daring next step. There are a few ways that have helped me overcome my fear.

1. Faith. I am a Christian, and my faith gives me confidence and my identity. I believe faith plays a crucial role in our lives. I could not overcome my fears without the person and work of Jesus Christ in my life. You may not be a Christian or a person of faith, but in my experience, faith drives me to confidence in my decisions.

2. Mind Change. I had to (and still do) shift the way I see risks and challenges. I started to realize I was afraid of losing control (or the perception of control). I started to transform my thinking from failure to freedom. I created spaces in my environment to fail. I love what Michael Jordan said, “I don’t remember every win I had, but I do remember every loss.” I had to see my losses as opportunities to get better.

 

 

3. Accountability Team. This is so important. I have a team of people I do NOT work with that holds me accountable and motivates me. Fear is crippling, but when you have a small intentional community of people motivating you-you will move forward. This is why people hire coaches! They want someone who can directly invest in them, and motivate them to move forward.

4. Developing & Empowering Others. The greatest calling for the leader is to develop and empower others. One of the greatest ways to reduce fear in my life is to develop and empower others to lead. By developing and empowering others, I am naturally instilling trust to take new risks. Leadership is influence, and being a genuine leader means being vulnerable. It is okay to take risks, and moving past fear is often a team effort.

We all face fear in different ways, but it can leave us crippled. Don’t let fear control you. Find the root of your fear, and push forward! I continue to be stretched by my faith, creating mind change, having a strong accountability team, and developing and empowering others. Overcome your fear by seeing difficulties as possibilities. Give yourself space to fail, and grow from those challenges. Find your new normal by inspiring vision in others by leading past fear.

 

Written by Jonathan Rector

Executive Leadership Coach

Jon@coachrector.com

From Skeptic to Coach: My Journey to Professional Coaching

This sounds weird I said to my mom, Mary Rector, who was explaining her new venture as a Life Coach. And I am a millennial! My mom, Mary, became a certified Life Coach in 2018, and I didn’t have a clue what a Life Coach did. I grew up in sports and understood the crucial role as a coach. I worked in sales, and I saw the importance of mentors and leadership coaches, but I didn’t understand why someone needed a coach for life. “Isn’t that what parenting is for?” I thought (as I laughed).

The truth is, I was a very opinionated and outspoken skeptic. At first, I confused Life Coaches with counselors and consultants. Counselors focus on the mind and emotions, and consultants give advice and guide you. “So, what does a Life Coach do?” I asked. Life Coaches focus on six areas of your life, help you formulate goals, hold you accountable to your goals, and celebrate your wins.

The six areas a coach helps you with are:

  1. Career
  2. Relationships
  3. Finances
  4. Health
  5. Spirituality
  6. Well-being

 

Skeptic to Student

I started to understand the need for Life Coaches, but I still was skeptical of the process. I decided to enroll in the Fowler International Academy of Professional Coaching, and complete training in Community and Professional Coaching. As I went through the training, I started to see the benefits of the curriculum paired with a knowledgeable coach. With my background in business and churches, I see the real need for quality coaching.

 

Student to Coach

As a leader in a nonprofit, entrepreneur, and a Pastor in a small church, I became a believer in Professional Coaching. I think back in my professional life, and I have a tremendous team of people who have mentored, inspired, and pushed me to be better. In my personal life, I have friends and family who encourage me and celebrate with me when I succeed. A Professional Coach offers unbiased opinions, has knowledge and training in their field, and is committed to seeing you succeed.

In my next blog, I will talk more about the differences in Life Coaching and Executive Leadership Coaching! Thank you for reading, and we hope encouraged you today.

 

By Jonathan Rector

Executive Leadership Coach, Life Coach, Community Coach