Have you ever wondered why you start something but never finish? This happens to all of us in one area or another. I might eat good, work out, and start to lose weight, but after a while I am right back where I started. The common problem we have is not always a lack of motivation or opportunities to change, but a lack of mastering the small things. A friend of mine is in law enforcement, and one of his primary duties is to train first responders on various rescue missions. He says the training is what he enjoys the most. This is the same thing with athletes, soldiers, and other professions. The key to success is learning to master and love the little disciplines. Think about it, so many people want to dabble, but refuse to fully commit. We might have the right skills and get the right education, but without accountability and coaching there cannot be mastery! For example, in order to get a driver’s license, you must first pass a written exam (knowledge), practice driving so many hours (skill), and drive with an instructor (coaching).
Results-driven coaching provides you quality coaches to help you:
- Create a vision of success
- Identify goals for measurements
- Ask the right questions
- Create accountability
- Empower you for success
- Celebrate with you
There are various types of coaching out there, but a great coach will help you get results. Rector Professional Coaching provides our clients with the tools to create a Personal Development Plan helping you grow towards success in your career, finances, health, spirituality, relationships, and well-being! If you want real and lasting change then you want to hire a coach that will help develop you and grow towards success.
Tips to Create a Personal Development Plan
- What are my goals for this year, 3 years, 5 years?
- Why are these goals important to me?
- Who do I need to help accomplish this?
- What training or education do I need to reach these goals?
- Prioritize “Next Steps”
Margin Matters: 5 Ways to Create Space in Your Life
Stephen Covey writes, “The key is not spending time but investing it.”
In my experience, some of the most popular phrases I here are: “I’m too busy!” and “I wish I had time for that…” “I wish I had the time.” We all come from different places, but the most common thing we all have is time. It is extremely limited, moves to fast, and we will never get it back. I am no different! I am a husband, father of two, I work two jobs, volunteer in my church, visit my extended family, and somehow am finishing my Master’s Degree. People ask me how can I balance my work load and personal life. I am not perfect, but I have found some ways to create margin in my life. I found 5 ways to create space in my life to be effective:
- Prioritize: We give our time, talent, and treasure towards what/whom we desire. Many of us are busy, and we are busy just to be busy! Prioritizing by importance, deadline, and value can create margin in your life by simply eliminating distraction. We can prioritize things in every area of life.
- Scheduling: This is probably preaching to the choir to my Type A people, but there is truth to scheduling your time. We create space by being intentional and honoring our commitments. Do not think scheduling is limited to meetings, events, or trips. Schedule quiet time, critical thinking time, and time to learn. Leaders are learners, and scheduling time to learn and think critically can greatly impact your work. Scheduling time to rest might sound odd, but it promotes the discipline of scheduling and intentional time to rest.
- Learn to Say No, so You Can Say Yes: I don’t know about you, but I often have a hard time saying no. I have been taught that when we agree to something, we are also saying no to other things. For example, If I say yes to a good business opportunity I am saying no to family or a greater business opportunity. In terms of margin, it is good to learn to say no when you can so you have the margin or freedom to yes to greater things. It is not always easy to make this decision, but overtime you have more and more opportunities to say no.
- Focus on What Matters: We all have things we have to do, and after we learn how to prioritize, we can focus on the work that matters and get it done. Whether this is work, relationships, your faith, or relaxation, we must focus on what matters most in life. There are times in my life where I turn down career opportunities to spend more time with family. Many of my friends in the military made sacrifices to serve their country. No matter what type of job you have, we all have the ability to creatively find ways to focus our time, energy, and attention on what or who matters most.
- Empower Others: Delegate, delegate, delegate. You will be surprised how equipping and empowering others will help create margin in your life. The more you can train, lead, and delegate to others can create space in your schedule to focus on what matters. There are some duties you might not want to delegate, but learn how to go farther and faster together.
Margin matters. We need rest, time for creative and effective work, and the freedom to say no so we can say yes. We never get time back. Our investment of our time is probably the most valuable thing we have. Don’t waste it!
Written by Jonathan Rector
Executive Leadership & Life Coach
Stop Complaining and Just Do It!
This saying has been used over time by parents including mine, myself as a parent, coaches, teachers, and bosses. The scripture I would quote to my children on a routine bases can be found in the New Testament book of Philippians 2:14-15 (NLT) that states “14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” Complaining is one thing I can do well. I sometimes find myself making excuses and complaining about all sorts of issues. It creeps up in me and I go back to the verse I quoted my children to check myself.
One of the main complaints I hear is from friends who complain about the complaining on Facebook. I have hidden people from my profile so I would not have to see their constant negative post. Everywhere I find myself from online, in my community, television, online media and yes even family seems to be baptized with a complaining culture. It creeps back into my spirit. So, my goal is to stop complaining and just do it.
How Was My Mind and Spirit Changed?
My friend Lance gave me a great reason to reexamine my mind and spirit. Let me introduce you to this amazing man. He lives daily with the reality of being in a wheelchair. He was born with spina bifida. Spina bifida is a condition that is from birth which the Mayo clinic states, “occurs when the spine and spinal cord don’t form properly.” Lance at a young age used crutches to get around as well as a wheelchair. He was bullied, harassed and told all his life by others he could not be “normal” in society. Lance proves them all wrong to this day. The picture is Lance in his first marathon. He wanted to be in the race but did not own a racing chair. He raced in his normal, daily chair. Race officials told him it had never been done. He finished the race. He did it! Lance did not complain about the racing officials or his lack of proper equipment, he just did it. It is what he does to this day.
Changing the Way I Think
I want to be like Lance. Stop looking for the reasons I can’t do something or complain about why it is hard. I want to just do it with a determination and drive that proves I can overcome and succeed. Lance is a bright light of inspiration in a very dark world. Coaching has helped me view my life in a more intentional way. Questions I ask myself might be:
- Why am I complaining about this issue?
- Does complaining change anything about it?
- Do I have a right to complain?
- What if I change the way I looked at what I was complaining about?
When I ask myself these questions, I focus beyond the circumstances, and look at the possible success that I can take advantage of. Instead of living among the everyday darkness of complaining, whining, and arguing; I choose to think about being an over comer, a bright light of inspiration and motivation. I choose to just do it and go against the grain. Coaching brings clarity and focus to the issues we might be complaining about and helps plan to overcome and succeed. Complaining is traded in for success. Nike chose the slogan for a reason, Just do it!
Written by Mary Rector
Master Coach, Life Coach
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